I keep talking about how I’ve done some inner work with myself, my shadowself, my traumas, all of it. While doing that, I’ve also had to take a look at how I am and want to be as a person and as a friend, partner or family member. And that makes me reflect on whether the people around me (near or far) actually match that. Some won’t, and that is okay, not every relationship is there for life, some are here for a season or few. 

Reading this through after writing it makes me realize I sound quite angry through some points of the post, but you know what, I’m allowed to feel things. I've been the "understanding good girl" a little too hard and a little too long, essentially letting people walk over me and smiling at them when they do. Not anymore, thanks. Suppressing anger makes women sick - according to some studies, anyway. There’s an alleged correlation between women suppressing their anger and developing autoimmune issues and I have enough of those so anger it is. Too bad if that’s too much for some. 

Because of certain experiences I’ve been through in my younger adult life, I can admit that I have a ton of trust issues with people, but the way these beautiful souls I get to call my inner circle help me navigate that is simply amazing. So, here are some fundamental things they’ve taught me, intentionally and unintentionally.

This post was originally written as a draft a couple of years ago after someone in my life (accidentally) pissed me off by requesting I should make them a sweater just because. I say accidentally because I want to give them grace for not understanding what goes into making a sweater, as they don’t knit themself.

Several people seem to think that me having the skill to make my own clothes somehow makes them entitled to that as well. Well, I hope you have years of time and patience to learn because that’s what it took me to be at the current level. This is the price I pay for having exactly the items I want; it takes time, effort, patience and some knowledge. If you want to borrow my skills to have something, your responsibility is to compensate accordingly.